Relieve Shame Daytime Affirmation Series

Dr. Jones says most compliments are honest, even when the person giving them wants something. His examples: "Thank you for noticing how attractive I am, but I still don't want to give you my phone number," and thanking someone for noticing your taste in cars while refusing to pay their price. You keep the kind words and decline the request.

When someone implies you are not valuable, the session tells you the anger you feel is a signal that their opinion is worthless and can be thrown away. It also reminds you that only a few people will treat you poorly, and that the rest are ready to treat you well. That is the "new healthy option": focus on the mistreatment instead of doubting yourself.

The session asks how you treat yourself after being treated badly and after being treated well. After kindness, you relax, mentally recycle the best parts, notice how much you agree with the good qualities others see, and enjoy the good feelings. The answer to each is yes, so you practise absorbing the good as deeply as you once absorbed the bad.

Each silence has a task. You imagine being among people and calmly confident, then picture standing up for yourself. You then breathe in the feeling of being alive and exhale doubt, and later direct a ball of energy at a goal. Finally you feel yourself having achieved it.

The opening message, that you have the power to overcome shame and that it is okay to be who you are, returns around the 19-minute mark. It covers absorbing moments of being accepted, choosing people who accept you, and throwing away poor treatment. The repetition is deliberate, as hypnosis relies on it to let the ideas settle in.

It is the image Dr. Jones uses for motivation. You imagine the power within you as a ball of energy, and motivation happens when you direct it at a specific target. You aim it at one goal, then feel how good it is to have achieved it.