Unlimited Confidence

After the beach scene and a full-body relaxation, you sit up and notice a kite far out in the sky. Steve counts from ten to one and tells you that the lower the kite goes, the more deeply you relax. It gives your mind one simple thing to follow while you let go, so the confidence suggestions that come next land when you are at your most settled.

You walk along the beach and find unpleasant labels from your past written in the sand. You sweep them away with your foot, and then the water washes the sand clean. Further along you take a pick to a large rock and carve words that describe you, such as talented, confident, accomplished, good person, positive, attractive and capable. You then add your own words in silence.

You recall a time you felt on top of the world, such as a graduation or a birthday. You make it vivid, with the colours, sounds, smells and the feel of your clothes, then turn everything up, especially the emotion. While you feel it, you touch the tip of your right finger to your right thumb. Afterwards, making that same okay sign is meant to bring that memory of confidence back whenever you need a boost.

Once you are relaxed, you imagine the future version of yourself: six months on, with easier conversations, a career going smoothly and family seeking your advice, and a year on, living life on your own terms. Seeing yourself there gives the suggestions somewhere to point. You also rehearse specific moments, like talking with a love interest, joining a group conversation and giving a speech, including answering a question from the audience.

You think of a real or imagined person who walks confidently and then picture yourself walking the same way. He asks how you would walk if you felt completely good about yourself: with freedom of motion, head held high, and a smile. It turns confidence into something you can see and feel in the body.

Near the end, Steve points out how hard it is to remember what was said seven or nine minutes ago, and tells you that it is not worth the effort. You are invited to remember to forget, or forget to remember, as you prefer. It lets your conscious mind stop tracking the words. He then says that each time you listen, the suggestions become more a part of you, and that you will wake refreshed.